I Want a Wife Judy Bradys Legendary Feminist Satire

One of the best-remembered pieces from the premiere issue of Ms. magazine is â€Å"I Want a Wife.† Judy Brady’s (then Judy Syfers) tongue-in-cheek essay explained in one page what all too many men had taken for granted about â€Å"housewives.† What Does a Wife Do? â€Å"I Want a Wife† was a humorous piece that also made a serious point: Women who played the role of â€Å"wife† did many helpful things for husbands and usually children without anyone realizing. Even less, it wasnt acknowledged that these â€Å"wife’s tasks† could have been done by someone who wasn’t a wife, such as a man. â€Å"I want a wife who will take care of my physical needs. I want a wife who will keep my house clean. A wife who will pick up after my children, a wife who will pick up after me. The desired wife tasks included: Work to support us so I can go back to schoolTake care of the children, including feeding them and nurturing them, keeping them clean, taking care of their clothes, taking care of their schooling and social lifeKeep track of doctor and dentist appointmentsKeep my house clean and pick up after meSee to it that my personal things are where I can find them when I need themTake care of the babysitting arrangementsBe sensitive to my sexual needsBut do not demand attention when I am not in the moodDo not bother me with complaints about a wife’s duties The essay fleshed out these duties and listed others. The point, of course, was that housewives were expected to do all these things, but no one ever expected a man to be capable of these tasks. The underlying question of the essay was â€Å"Why?† Striking Satire At the time, â€Å"I Want a Wife† had the humorous effect of surprising the reader because a woman was the one asking for a wife. Decades before gay marriage became a commonly discussed subject, there was only one person who had a wife: a privileged male husband. But, as the essay famously concluded, â€Å"who wouldn’t want a wife?† Origins Judy Brady was inspired to write her famous piece at a feminist consciousness-raising session. She was complaining about the issue when someone said, â€Å"Why don’t you write about it?† She went home and did so, completing the essay within a few hours. Before it was printed in Ms., â€Å"I Want a Wife† was first delivered aloud in San Francisco on Aug 26, 1970. Judy (Syfers) Brady read the piece at a rally celebrating the 50th anniversary of women’s right to vote in the U.S., obtained in 1920. The rally packed a huge crowd into Union Square; hecklers stood near the stage as I Want a Wife was read. Lasting Fame Since â€Å"I Want a Wife† appeared in Ms., the essay has become legendary in feminist circles. In 1990, Ms. reprinted the piece. It is still read and discussed in women’s studies classes and mentioned in blogs and news media.  It is often used as an example of satire and humor in the feminist movement. Judy Brady later became involved in other social justice causes, crediting her time in the feminist movement with being foundational for her later work. Echoes of the Past: The Supportive Role of Wives Judy Brady does not mention knowing an essay by Anna Garlin Spencer from much earlier in the 20th century, and may not have known it, but this echo from the so-called first wave of feminism shows that the ideas in I Want a Wife were in the minds of other women, too,   In The Drama of the Woman Genius (collected in Womans Share in Social Culture), Spencer addresses  womens chances for achievement the supportive role that wives had played for many famous men, and how many famous women, including Harriet Beecher Stowe, had the responsibility for childcare and housekeeping as well as writing or other work.  Spencer writes, â€Å"A successful woman preacher was once asked what special obstacles have you met as a woman in the ministry? Not one, she answered, except the lack of a ministers wife.† Edited and with additional content by  Jone Johnson Lewis